The Opposite, in the ATTRACTION.

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Here I am, early in the morning, just before 4 O’clock,

Unable to sleep while the ideas keep me awake – nope, cannot keep on rolling around,

Getting one of my Posts done seemed like a good idea.

 

Sitting and writing, I heard the song of Dua Lipa – IDGAF,

And another idea hit me, while I listened to this song,

Why has it happened over the years gone by,

That opposite personality People are attracted to each other?

And yes, here’s maybe just a few thoughts on this…

 

I did go online, researching what the various smart people said there,

As well, found a few places where they say no opposite people, should be attracted to each other,

Or why it cannot happen.

 

The main focus here should, in fact, be this;

If you’re into that person, if you’re happy with them,

The biggest culminating attribute you should have;

The willingness to work with that opposite personality person – trying all you can, making the relationship work.

 

In everything there is,

With only this one sentiment, there’s so much more which can come,

But that will need you to be open to learning things anew!

 

As with everything we try for the first time,

There’s a definite adjusting period,

Realizing along the way just how directly, different you are from him or her.

 

This is the very same as with a new car,

New smart-phone,

a New computer program,

That new PC game,

Starting to watch a new Series or listening to that new Band

All of them have a transitions period needed.

 

If and when you can move past this time in your relationship,

You’ll find there are exciting new aspects of dating your polar opposite as well,

Not only that – you could as well find it more exciting to really get to know the other person!

 

It can be good for you, having someone to your direct opposite;

They could be good for you – helping you become a better person yourself,

Drawing another side of your personality out, which you’d never have known, existed.

 

This relationship could open your mind to new ideas of what you feel are cornerstones of

your beliefs, seeing other possibilities from their perspective,

Their thoughts could even challenge yours, to see if your understanding and insights of whatever this may be – are really so grounded

 

All of this could be really interesting, but it could also lead to a lot more friction,

But – if you do remember it’s not attacking you or saying you’re wrong,

It’s someone else’s different point of view on what you think.

 

The differences here could also be experienced as that spark which attracts many other couples to each other.

One thing which most of the specialist all say, when that initial spark between most people in their Relationship run out – they find that there aren’t many new things entering the relationship.

In the case of opposites, this seldom happens and the people in these relationships, feel there is more intensity between them.

 

One of the most problematic issues with polar opposite people in a relationship,

Would be to over-step the boundaries.

You could find out with them how far is too far for you,

Thus – setting up boundaries which you don’t have to cross again,

It could strengthen the relationship.

 

You can always correct this outer-edge experience and find out how they feel about what you as well experienced and this could be a good thing for the relationship.

Within this, communication is very important – depending on how you communicate yourself and their level of sharing with you, how they feel,

It could help both of you grow in ways you cannot imagine!

 

The energy and excitement between the two of you,

This can give you a new Insight into your own life, as well as see more of what you could have missed out along the way.

In all aspects, this could help strengthen and increase the duration of your relationship.

It could reveal this opposite person as being the one you’d like to spend the rest of your life with, you’ll never know, if not a chance taken?

 

In life as with everything else,

There are the good and the bad,

You’ll see immediately what you’ll be okay with,

Just make sure that you know what you’re signing up for,

As long as it makes you happy,

Then see where a new situation can lead you…

Enjoy the ride as long as you like it, or while it lasts.

 

 

P.S.:

On the Recommendation of a friend, wanting to help me improve my Writing, I followed her suggestion in changing my writing Attributes – no more excessively CAPITILIZED words.

Tell me if you can see the changes here if you like the new version, or do I need to change it up, even more, even less of what I did here with the bolds, italics and underlining’s?

Thank you.

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The EUPHORIA of the Disbelieve…

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It happened for the First time EVER, Yep – You’ll have a need a read on Further.

Between the YEARS 2017 to 2018 while we had a Nice Spit-Braai for the Coming New Year,

I was asked a Curious Question,

Why had I revealed a Subject from One of my Posts.

 

With my Mind mostly Running at Miles an Hour,

Places I only Later would arrive at,

I was Totally Shocked and in Wonder as to what I actually did.

 

It turns out that there was Nothing I did,

Yet when possibly Anyone reads some of my Work,

Seeing themselves in the Idea, Thought or Written Words,

I cannot help for their Insight into the same Situation.

 

This wasn’t Actually this kind of Effect

AND Still, I didn’t mention any Names within the Specific post.

It’s NEVER Nice to lay anything Bear to those Around you – If at all,

You’re not at all willing and able to Look at Yourself in the same way,

Especially when I’d point out things about myself which have Bearing on the Post itself.

 

Within this Idea,

I handed the Post to an Independent Third Party after I’d assured myself,

Reading the Post again; that I didn’t Make the Mistake at Shaming anyone with my Lack of Resistance in Naming the Subject.

So far so good.

 

Then something Really Interesting happened,

AND this is Actually very Ironic as well,

My very Last Post of the Year was read aloud…

 

I suspect like Most Artists,

Singers, Songwriters, Authors, Actors and every Other Medium out there;

There’s a Curtain Euphoria they may feel when People in General either See, Read, Hear or Such what they’d Created.

 

I had a Double Dose of this,

Hearing the Skeptical Thoughts about My ideas, thoughts, and comment on my Own Posts.

This with the Insight to this Post as well.

 

Hearing my Thoughts coming from another’s Words,

Hearing the Understand from them as they see some of what I’d shared

AND being present when the Realization of the Idea hit home,

It’s ALMOST like a Drug you cannot get Enough of.

 

Luckily for me in this Regard,

I ABSOLUTELY write for Myself first and foremost,

Making this Feeling that almost Tingling Feeling you get from Driving too Fast through an Even dropping dip and popping out on the Other side.

 

It could just be the Pressure on your body which moves in Such a way,

That it Actually feels Magical when you’re Young and this Happens to you,

The Feeling and Insight, the Wonder and the Believe that in Life the Magical can be as Real as our days are right now.

 

I do not crave Anyone to tell me If at all I’m any Good in my Passion,

I just DON’T want to waste my time at being Terrible at it,

Able to use my Time better than Wasting it.

 

I do have to Admit that I’d never had Thought and Believed the Feeling I did Experience while I sat there,

Enjoying this Sensation at what I had Created and at some Corners of the World at large,

I’m as well Giving Something Back from all which I’d Received.

 

The feeling was so Natural,

Not having Searched it out,

I would say it was a very True Feeling,

Something which Everyone should Enjoy at least Once for the Correct Reasons.

 

I suspect it’s just another Step in Reaching where I’m Aiming at

AND while I have Enjoyed the Sensation of Hearing my Words, Thoughts, and Ideas aloud like this – I also know that the Long Lasting Effect should be what and if Anyone can Themselves take something even More away from what I try to share.

 

I cannot Refuse the Idea that One day when I may be Recognized from more of My works, the Feeling accompanying that Might not be even More Intense;

That would be a Straight out Lie!

 

Within all of this,

I cannot say that many People Across the Globe would Enjoy this specific Feeling,

That withstanding – It’s not to say that Anyone cannot Feel this either,

Like Miracles, if and when You don’t accept them Possible –

Then there’s no way that You’d not See that reaction in Your Loved Ones’ Eyes,

The Joy in Your Children’s Laughter,

The Happiness in Your Friends Body Language, seeing you for the First time in a While.

 

Accept the Smallish Miracles,

Those Great Feelings and those Many-Many People who are part of them,

Live Your lives, Do not hold out for that GREAT one single Feeling,

It might Not Arrive
AND the Many Smaller ones Combine over time,

Making an Extra-Ordinary Life if you can Only See if for Yourself.

 

Make Your Days Count!

Personal PREFERENCES…

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The weekend over Father’s DAY – this Year, I had Lunch at my Sister’s place,

Between the Sisters, she’s the Youngest – yet she’s older than I am…

Between the Six siblings, we were Three there on the day.

 

It was a nice Lunch out and quit Relaxing, having a good time while I was there,

The food itself was Really nice and I enjoyed the company as well.

 

The Oldest Sister’s Kids arrived there after Lunch and we continued Chatting for some time.

Within this time I heard my Oldest Sister saying that she had to Change the Radio Station’s Channel in the Mornings when she Drove to work.

Talking about the change the Station or rather the Presenters initiated themselves, seeing they’d been working in their Spots on the Radio Station, for such a long time.

 

I was pretty Amazed that my Oldest Sister didn’t like the New Presenter,

The Very Host of the Morning Show which had Changed…

 

When I got home the Thought still stayed with me and I came to Realize that this has happened to almost ALL of us at some point,

Not that Someone you know didn’t see Eye to Eye,

But their Personal Preference differed from yours…

 

I do not care in the least bit what the Next person Likes or for that matter Dislike,

But the Issue comes when We, They or Any Others,

Like to change your Point of View or what You’d like to suit Other people’s Idea of what they believe You should like…

 

This is in fact what makes Life of Interesting,

Not ALL people are the Same and if that was the Case,

Life would have been REALLY Boring at the end of the day!

 

Over time You’re Enriched by your Experiences and if you Give that options a Chance to Test it,

OR if you Immediately see that you Dislike what the Option is,

That’s well Within Your Right to Exercise Your Personal Preference on whichever Topic You’re dealing with or facing.

 

I also must Admit that I don’t think that the New Presenter is that Terrible,

BUT – as well, I’ve listened to this Woman on the Radio for a while,

Knowing her Eccentricities by now as well.

 

I can compare this to Us watching a Brand New Movie or a TV Series,

If you’re NOT use to it and it Doesn’t Resonate with you,

It’s going to be Really hard for Us to jump into it.

 

LIFE it all about Trying New things,

AND when you’ve given it Your time,

No matter How much you do – at the End of the Day we ALL

Know what your Personal Preference would be…

 

As Long As everyone else accepts what you Like or Not,

Then things should be Pretty Okay…

 

Cadbury          vs.        Beacon Chocolate

 

Coke                vs.        Pepsi

 

Google            vs.        Bing

 

Apple              vs.        Microsoft

 

Apple              vs.        Samsung

 

Audi                vs.        VW

 

iZombie           vs.        The Walking Dead

 

There are so many, Yet I’m not going to mention all of them,

The ONLY fact we need to Understand here,

Like you’ve got Your Own Preferences,

Those around you do as well.

 

The Best we can do, Respect the Choices of those which are Different from Ours,

As they would in turn,

Respect Your Choices when they Differ from THEM…

 

All the Best with your Different Choices!

Sacrifice – WHY indeed?

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Who has Never been in the Position,

Wanting your Plans to work out and THEN only seeing that Possibility of something falling into place and Things able to work out…

THE Only thing You need be doing – You’ve got to Sacrifice something.

Ask Yourself this Question, How many People do you know who would Gladly do this,

Taking that Chance for their Plans to come to Fruition?

 

I’ve read a few things and on this one Website by a Screenplay Writer / Novelist, I found one of her posts –

Jeanne Veillette BOWERMAN,

Talking about the Idea of our – Fear of Success…

 

I’d read her post and the one before this one about our

Fear Of Success – which was,

10 Tips to Prepare for Opportunities When They Knock…

 

HENSE, you may ask how do these Two ideas come back to Sacrifice and Thus,

The Idea is this,

Mentioned in her Post on Fear of Success,

Is the idea that If you need to Change, reaching that Success,

You’ll have to Change…

 

The Question begs to be Asked as well,

Sacrifice your current Comfortable situation,

Sacrifice something in your Nice Life,

Change what You’re currently Use to –

Reaching what, Gaining what, Ending up Where exactly?

 

Most people may NOT be Scared of Success,

But we’re ALL Scared of Failure

AND

That’s also something Very Debilitating holding us back from Reaching for that Brilliant Change or the Opportunity of a Lifetime!

 

You may not have the Experience,

Witt,

Knowledge,

Training,

OR the Expertise – there could be So much more…

BUT

If you have the Guts to Follow the Passion which Burns in Your Heart,

That Passion will Shine through no matter what you do.

The People in the Know, Looking for Whomever it may be at the Moment You’re there to do Your thing – They may see what You cannot Imagine them to pick up on!

 

There’s Another Issue at hand here,

Not only that Fear of the Unknown and Making a Complete Ass of yourself,

BUT

Worse than that –

If You’ve become so Happy with Your Mundane situation

SO Happy that Neither You nor anyone else for that matter,

REQUIRE something MORE from You,

Then it’s a good place to stay – in that Comfort Zone and Enjoy what You’re Use too!

 

Interestingly Enough,

I’d spoken to my Oldest Sister,

Not sure if the Passion I’d felt while I’d Written various of my Fictional Works,

Would that Feeling and Idea and Heartfelt for the Character and Story shine through?

 

She told me that when she get SO caught up in any Story,

When it Interests her so Much,

When she cannot Put down whatever she’s Reading –

then at that Point, the Writer did their JOB (this is mentioning my situation).

 

When You reach this Plato I suspect,

You’d be lucky to Receive that Contract or Possible that Job or even that Raise You were Aiming at.

 

The OTHER thing here mentioned,

That Lovely thing,

Your Comfort Zone!

 

I’m Waiting to find out if I’m one of the Lucky 40

Writers, Producers, Directors or Such landing a Chance

at getting the Chance to do Something Brilliant!

 

Not ONLY this,

But I had to Change my general Idea and

JUMP out, doing something totally Different!

 

I had to come up with an; As Original Idea As Possible,

When that was Done,

I had to Write the Synopsis well enough to draw Attention

AND, from there had to Write a Comedy Piece,

Not in English as I’d Written in English Exclusively for a LONG-long time!

 

ONLY when you try will you Know if things can work out,

THUS – The Sacrifice in Reaching where I want to be,

That’s an Ongoing Plan which has Various Aspects in it,

AND I’ll be Damned if I don’t even Try!

 

AND Yes,

There’s no way in this World that it doesn’t Scare the Life out of me,

Seeing this Leap of Faith may be Much BIGGER than I’d expect it to be,

BUT

Not doing it,

Not taking the Chance,

Not throwing my Name in there…

What would I Say at the end of the Day,

When I allow this Possible Opportunity to Slip through my Fingers…?

 

What would be Worse,

In another Year I’d wonder why I didn’t do it?

How many Years would have to go by, before You seriously ask yourself,

What was the Worse that could happen?

 

Sacrifice Your Calm,

Comfortable,

Relaxing,

Comfort Zone for the

ADVENTURE of a Lifetime?

 

They don’t say,

A Leap of Faith for nothing –

Only After You Leap would you WORK your Rear off to Make it Work for You!

Too ACTIVE for Our Own GOOD!

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This last week I’ve been running at Work so hard,

My Mind had not really Settled when I got home and

There’s just so much time which Passes before We do it all over again!

 

I’ve been so Busy with what I had to do,

I’ve not even THOUGHT about something to put up on this Post…

That’s saying FAR too much actually!

 

Then I once more Heard this song and I’d understand just how Important this is,

Even though we may be Really Busy during the day or the week;

It is an ABSOLUTE need for us to Try and switch off after you Finished work!

 

I Believe that this isn’t as Easy as I may write here

OR

That we do try to reach that Point of Relaxation,

Seeing there’s Far Too much happening around us!

 

You’ve got a Life at Home beyond Your work and

When you’ve got a Partner, Wife, Husband AND Kids,

All of them need some of Your Time and Attention…

 

We cannot Make the Mistake in Deprive them from that,

BUT,

One thing I’ve come to Realize the Past week,

IF you can Create Yourself a Rhythm when You arrive home

AND

You do explain this to those around you,

THIS can help you Relax and You can help them Out Far more Effectively than what You’d have done if you didn’t Relax.

 

A Warm Bath

OR

Having that nice Glass of Wine

OR

I’d love my Cup of Coffee

AND

Then I do Truly Enjoy Listening to that Song

OR
Music in general which put you in the Phase to Relax…

 

My Latest Singer / Songwriter I’ve found

OR

Picked up from the TV Series – Suits,

Sharon Van Etten…

AND the Song I cannot get Enough of,

LISTENED to it while I was Getting this Post done…

“People Ain’t No Good”

The Suits TV Series Song,

“Pay My Debts”

 

The FACT of the Matter is,

I watch a Great Deal of TV Series,

THOSE which I really Enjoy I can Start from Season ONE

If I do have them and ENJOY watching them again.

 

IF not then I do Watch many a Movie,

As well as NEED the Sounds of Soul in my Ears when I do write…

WHY I’m telling you this,

YOU Cannot Relax and Find Yourself before the Next workday,

If You don’t know HOW to truly Relax Yourself and KNOW

What would work for you…

 

I’ve Mentioned this before,

But with the Week being SO Hectic for me,

Relaxation is Far more Important that Any of Us can easily believe.

 

Whatever you Need to do,

When You’re in a Better Spot,

Then those around you Who would NEED that as well,

You can Cope better at Helping them out as well…

 

Take the time to Help Yourself and then,

Take the time in Helping Them as well.

That UNYIELDING Support…

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I Recently heard from a VERY POSITIVE person,

Having Seen and Heard, how Others Perceive this Person as being Upbeat and Positive,

Which is a Really Cool and Refreshing Idea and Thought…

 

So this Lead me to Wonder,

If and when that Person needs a Pick-Me-Up,

Where exactly do We Usually go to get that Kind of Positive Injection?

 

Then Yet another question hit me as well,

Wherever They did get that Injection or Recharge of Positivity;

How does this Person or Place or Situation get Themselves, Itself or Whichever it may be –

Charged so Positively as well?

 

It makes me Think of Our Cellular-phones,

With the Technology out there,

You can Charge an External Battery and then when You need it,

Charge your phone so that it get a Boost when you need the Phone’s battery to Last even longer…

 

Thus it Stands to Reason,

As with Batteries and US, We need to Replenish almost Everything in Our Lives –

That Continuous Recurring Event…

AND so, the very same Question;

Wherever You, Me, They go to – Getting that Much-needed Boost in whichever Way we need it,

That Person, Place, Situation…

Where do THEY get their Positivity Replenished?

 

This Might not be as Big an Issue as I suspect it could be,

BUT, there’s the Rub as well;

Like in our Natural Resources –

We as a Species Continually USE and Take almost everything for Granted,

BUT, do we Really think of more than just Ourselves?

 

Positivity can probably be found; in Today’s Day in Age; within various areas and means.

As I mentioned, there are Those Positive influences around us;

And it’s just here where We mostly DON’T see the Issue and Problem,

OVER Using that Resource could also Corrupt it…

 

We can Use a variety of Actions in Boosting ourselves;

Yoga

Meditation

Spending time with Family / Friends

Going to Church

Relaxing with a Good Book or Movie

Having a Good rest / sleep

 

It doesn’t really Matter what we Do or Need to do,

As long as You’re Weighing down that Positive Aspect of your life,

You, Me, We could Miss-use that Lucky Instrument.

 

In MOST of the Movies and Series, I’ve seen and had Obviously come to Realize – Other’s cannot Make us Happy,

They can ONLY assist in Your Happiness.

 

If we cannot See, Know or Understand what makes Us Happy – Positive toward our Own lives,

How can Another; pull you Up from that Place, Spot, Position where we’re Stuck in Despair and HOPE they’d know how to Help US out of it,

If you cannot even See the Positivity of Our Own Lives ourselves?

 

Thus, there’s another Thought;

You

Me

We may have that Lucky Penny (Six Pins None The Richer) which can Help us in getting over that Normal Human emotion of Despair – Unhappiness;

BUT Always look beyond Yourself as well,

However you do Reach that Positive Plato,

Remember how you got there and Understand,

There’s only So much We can Absorb or Take or Borrow from Another place,

 

Seeing that This place of Goodness, Happiness, Positivity, Lucky, Optimism also needs to Replenish themselves, itself and however you’re at.

 

Not to say it’ll be Okay to use it once in a while,

But it’s also a Common aspect of Humanity –

We Regularly forget that Other’s need this Positivity themselves,

Even if they do Help you, me, us;

 

No one is a Rock all of the time.

Consider Others’ as well…

The Denominator of COMMON-Sense!

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All of us have THAT Friend or even a Family Member,

They Most of the time Believe that they’re doing the Right thing

OR

Their Ideas and Thoughts on a Specific subject is Correct…

 

For THEM at the time, that may be Right;

But here’s the RUB,

Just When or How many OTHERS in whichever Diversity in Their Lives must see that they’re NOT as Correct as they Believe themselves to be,

Before the Reality should hit Home – opening their Eye to this fact?

 

FIRSTLY,

We don’t want to Beat Down on the Ones we Care for,

BUT – You don’t want them falling down the Rabbit Hole either,

Shattering at the Bottom!

 

Where is, and Where do you Actually find that THIN Line

Between Helping and Becoming a Broken Gramophone Turner,

Trying Your best at Helping THEM – Especially when they believe they don’t need it!

 

ALTHOUGH you believe that They might have the Issue or Problem,

But this Table could and or would be Turned on you,

Seeing that You’re trying to Help them see that there’s Something A-Miss with the Current Situation – Which could Easily be Pointed out to You;

Which would be that You’ve got an Issue with their Choices.

AS I said; when would the Table the turned on You?

 

Then the OTHER Million Dollar Question,

Just how long should we Pursue this Issue or Problem they may have,

Doing our Best at not ONLY to support them,

But in doing so – Trying our Level Best at Helping them when we AND

others see they’re Wasting their Time, Energy and possibly Money on something

Lost to their Insight…

 

We can very easily See and Name so many Hap-hazardous Issue and Problems

Which could Affect anyone around us,

It’s not Naming them, even Seeing them –

The Question is this;

When does Our insistence at Helping them Become the Very same as the Issue we’re seeing in Their Lives?

When does Too much Interference in Their Lives become an Issue and a Problem as well?

 

You, Me, We all have had Issues and Problems to deal with;

If you do NOT work through these in Your Life –

Just how would you Gain Insights, Wisdom, and Understanding.

 

When someone SEE these and they are Unwilling to Learn from what they should KNOW isn’t a Positive in their Lives,

Just how LONG should you Try and help them Seeing the Light of day?

 

Then the last Thought on this,

When do you See that Your Continuance of Chipping away at the Block,

Which could be their Insistent Pig-Headedness –

When does this “Possible” lost cause,

Become Your OWN Issue that you cannot allow them to Learn

OR

Crash and Burn to Learn,

Becomes Your Own Issue you cannot let be?

 

When does Retreating, become a Viable aspect of Survival for Your own Sanity, An Option which You should Consider,

Seeing that Either you’re wasting your Time and Energy and Life

On this Person you want, need or should Help –

BUT in the End, they could Easily Drag you down as well?

 

Most of us can ONLY try our very best,

But at the End of the day,

We should allow them To Fall to Grow,

Seeing the Light of FIGHT to reach the End of that Possible Dark Tunnel –

 

Just remember, the Tunnel THEY may be Seeing isn’t that Dark as You suspect or See or Feel it is,

Pulling them from there,

That could Spiral them into something even Worse than where they’d been…

 

THUS, the Question,

When is Too Much… TOO MUCH?