The Opposite, in the ATTRACTION.


Here I am, early in the morning, just before 4 O’clock,

Unable to sleep while the ideas keep me awake – nope, cannot keep on rolling around,

Getting one of my Posts done seemed like a good idea.


Sitting and writing, I heard the song of Dua Lipa – IDGAF,

And another idea hit me, while I listened to this song,

Why has it happened over the years gone by,

That opposite personality People are attracted to each other?

And yes, here’s maybe just a few thoughts on this…


I did go online, researching what the various smart people said there,

As well, found a few places where they say no opposite people, should be attracted to each other,

Or why it cannot happen.


The main focus here should, in fact, be this;

If you’re into that person, if you’re happy with them,

The biggest culminating attribute you should have;

The willingness to work with that opposite personality person – trying all you can, making the relationship work.


In everything there is,

With only this one sentiment, there’s so much more which can come,

But that will need you to be open to learning things anew!


As with everything we try for the first time,

There’s a definite adjusting period,

Realizing along the way just how directly, different you are from him or her.


This is the very same as with a new car,

New smart-phone,

a New computer program,

That new PC game,

Starting to watch a new Series or listening to that new Band

All of them have a transitions period needed.


If and when you can move past this time in your relationship,

You’ll find there are exciting new aspects of dating your polar opposite as well,

Not only that – you could as well find it more exciting to really get to know the other person!


It can be good for you, having someone to your direct opposite;

They could be good for you – helping you become a better person yourself,

Drawing another side of your personality out, which you’d never have known, existed.


This relationship could open your mind to new ideas of what you feel are cornerstones of

your beliefs, seeing other possibilities from their perspective,

Their thoughts could even challenge yours, to see if your understanding and insights of whatever this may be – are really so grounded


All of this could be really interesting, but it could also lead to a lot more friction,

But – if you do remember it’s not attacking you or saying you’re wrong,

It’s someone else’s different point of view on what you think.


The differences here could also be experienced as that spark which attracts many other couples to each other.

One thing which most of the specialist all say, when that initial spark between most people in their Relationship run out – they find that there aren’t many new things entering the relationship.

In the case of opposites, this seldom happens and the people in these relationships, feel there is more intensity between them.


One of the most problematic issues with polar opposite people in a relationship,

Would be to over-step the boundaries.

You could find out with them how far is too far for you,

Thus – setting up boundaries which you don’t have to cross again,

It could strengthen the relationship.


You can always correct this outer-edge experience and find out how they feel about what you as well experienced and this could be a good thing for the relationship.

Within this, communication is very important – depending on how you communicate yourself and their level of sharing with you, how they feel,

It could help both of you grow in ways you cannot imagine!


The energy and excitement between the two of you,

This can give you a new Insight into your own life, as well as see more of what you could have missed out along the way.

In all aspects, this could help strengthen and increase the duration of your relationship.

It could reveal this opposite person as being the one you’d like to spend the rest of your life with, you’ll never know, if not a chance taken?


In life as with everything else,

There are the good and the bad,

You’ll see immediately what you’ll be okay with,

Just make sure that you know what you’re signing up for,

As long as it makes you happy,

Then see where a new situation can lead you…

Enjoy the ride as long as you like it, or while it lasts.




On the Recommendation of a friend, wanting to help me improve my Writing, I followed her suggestion in changing my writing Attributes – no more excessively CAPITILIZED words.

Tell me if you can see the changes here if you like the new version, or do I need to change it up, even more, even less of what I did here with the bolds, italics and underlining’s?

Thank you.


The EUPHORIA of the Disbelieve…


It happened for the First time EVER, Yep – You’ll have a need a read on Further.

Between the YEARS 2017 to 2018 while we had a Nice Spit-Braai for the Coming New Year,

I was asked a Curious Question,

Why had I revealed a Subject from One of my Posts.


With my Mind mostly Running at Miles an Hour,

Places I only Later would arrive at,

I was Totally Shocked and in Wonder as to what I actually did.


It turns out that there was Nothing I did,

Yet when possibly Anyone reads some of my Work,

Seeing themselves in the Idea, Thought or Written Words,

I cannot help for their Insight into the same Situation.


This wasn’t Actually this kind of Effect

AND Still, I didn’t mention any Names within the Specific post.

It’s NEVER Nice to lay anything Bear to those Around you – If at all,

You’re not at all willing and able to Look at Yourself in the same way,

Especially when I’d point out things about myself which have Bearing on the Post itself.


Within this Idea,

I handed the Post to an Independent Third Party after I’d assured myself,

Reading the Post again; that I didn’t Make the Mistake at Shaming anyone with my Lack of Resistance in Naming the Subject.

So far so good.


Then something Really Interesting happened,

AND this is Actually very Ironic as well,

My very Last Post of the Year was read aloud…


I suspect like Most Artists,

Singers, Songwriters, Authors, Actors and every Other Medium out there;

There’s a Curtain Euphoria they may feel when People in General either See, Read, Hear or Such what they’d Created.


I had a Double Dose of this,

Hearing the Skeptical Thoughts about My ideas, thoughts, and comment on my Own Posts.

This with the Insight to this Post as well.


Hearing my Thoughts coming from another’s Words,

Hearing the Understand from them as they see some of what I’d shared

AND being present when the Realization of the Idea hit home,

It’s ALMOST like a Drug you cannot get Enough of.


Luckily for me in this Regard,

I ABSOLUTELY write for Myself first and foremost,

Making this Feeling that almost Tingling Feeling you get from Driving too Fast through an Even dropping dip and popping out on the Other side.


It could just be the Pressure on your body which moves in Such a way,

That it Actually feels Magical when you’re Young and this Happens to you,

The Feeling and Insight, the Wonder and the Believe that in Life the Magical can be as Real as our days are right now.


I do not crave Anyone to tell me If at all I’m any Good in my Passion,

I just DON’T want to waste my time at being Terrible at it,

Able to use my Time better than Wasting it.


I do have to Admit that I’d never had Thought and Believed the Feeling I did Experience while I sat there,

Enjoying this Sensation at what I had Created and at some Corners of the World at large,

I’m as well Giving Something Back from all which I’d Received.


The feeling was so Natural,

Not having Searched it out,

I would say it was a very True Feeling,

Something which Everyone should Enjoy at least Once for the Correct Reasons.


I suspect it’s just another Step in Reaching where I’m Aiming at

AND while I have Enjoyed the Sensation of Hearing my Words, Thoughts, and Ideas aloud like this – I also know that the Long Lasting Effect should be what and if Anyone can Themselves take something even More away from what I try to share.


I cannot Refuse the Idea that One day when I may be Recognized from more of My works, the Feeling accompanying that Might not be even More Intense;

That would be a Straight out Lie!


Within all of this,

I cannot say that many People Across the Globe would Enjoy this specific Feeling,

That withstanding – It’s not to say that Anyone cannot Feel this either,

Like Miracles, if and when You don’t accept them Possible –

Then there’s no way that You’d not See that reaction in Your Loved Ones’ Eyes,

The Joy in Your Children’s Laughter,

The Happiness in Your Friends Body Language, seeing you for the First time in a While.


Accept the Smallish Miracles,

Those Great Feelings and those Many-Many People who are part of them,

Live Your lives, Do not hold out for that GREAT one single Feeling,

It might Not Arrive
AND the Many Smaller ones Combine over time,

Making an Extra-Ordinary Life if you can Only See if for Yourself.


Make Your Days Count!

The GIRLS from a Life Past.


THIS, remind me of the two Films –

The Ghosts of Christmas (Charles Dickens)


Ghosts of Girlfriends Past (Matthew McConaughey)

Had me in some kind of a Similar position.


Ironically at that,

There are Two women by now that I’ve seen if you can say that,

At an interval far too close, making me believe this isn’t such a Coincidence,

For me NOT to wonder about this.


Listening on the Radio sometime before this started,

The Presenter asked about someone they’d known OR anyone the listeners knew,

Having not seen them in such a long time.


As curious as I was at this,

I did a Search on Google,

And very Surprised I saw the Results and the Research,

This first woman was Ironically on some Part of Social Media.


The reason I was somewhat shocked,

In the years before, possibly between 8 and 10 so far,

I never suspected Her to care much for opening any such Accounts,

Remembering this is what she told me, as a matter of Fact.


As we Most of the times do,

We get rid of Everything of that Person when we break the Connection

AND this was what I had done as well – this, while we weren’t even Serious in the least.

Still, the basic Idea was the same.


Then, when I ran the Search,

I saw the result and saw a Picture of her of at least Two Years before;

Closer to what she’s looking like now.


This I would say is Mostly also why there are Reunions,

People, in General, want to SEE and or Know what’s more or less been happening with those they’d like to keep tabs on.

For me, seeing this Image and concluding what information I was able to gather from the Two Profiles I had seen – I could make a few conclusions about her.

NOT in the Least bit sure At all how Closer or VERY Far from the truth…


So here comes Yet another Shocking Insight,

No matter HOW much we Hope, Believe and or Think;

That we’re so Brilliant – ONLY when you walk that Mile in Their shoes,

Would you and do you Know what it’s like to be them!


After all of this, there’s NO way that I can Ever believe my Conclusions are Correct no matter how many times in the Past I had been correct with them.

The ONLY thing that I’m 100% sure – her Expression in the Picture was a Sad one,

And this is something I thought would be possible.


Something I dreaded and HOPED would never happen,

But, what we Want for Others doesn’t always happen to them.

A Sad truth of life.


Even if we’re NOT personally involved with Someone We shared some time with,

You still do not Want anything Terrible for them or See that Life did not turn out that Well for them – Seeing that if this was what Happened to them, something You suspected could be,

There’s a Very Good Chance that you’d be in the Same boat with them,

If you’d stuck around…


Now I suspect that Life did Knock her around far more than I wanted.

Yet – You leave when you don’t have any Other Choice AND suspect You could have been Correct seeing them after all of this time had passed by.


Now for the Second of the Ladies,

Seeing her Mother more Often than I want to,

KNOWING this Lady smokes like a Chimney…

Myself Absolutely HATE Cigarette Smoke…


Thus, when I Least expected it,

I saw the Second Woman walking toward me, at the Apartment,

Walking to the Main Large garbage-bin,

Walking down the stairs behind her a bit later,

Either She had picked-up her Mother’s bad Habit of smoking

OR Her mother smokes so Constantly that no one would Survive there!


There’s no Answer to this Conclusion,

Except for the reaction from her,

Not in the least saying I’d have Dated her OR she might have been interested in me,

But the Lack of Communication from her side,

Leaves me to believe that some Ships sail for a Reason.


You, ME, All of Us at some Point Grasp onto the Idea of keeping that Person in our Lives when there’s Possibly NO factual Reason that this would Work out correctly.

Yet – as the saying goes;

If you let them go and they come back to you,

They were Yours to being with…


Just remember to Leave them Be when they Never come back to you.


We as a People don’t like to Lose,

BUT – take this Little Conclusion into account,

If they’re Never supposed to be Yours and You keep on Pushing,

How many Other Chances will then Slip through your Fingers,

Before You could Really find the One who is Really supposed to be Yours?


No matter what the Smart people say,

Letting go of Anyone at any Point in time for Whatever reason that may be,

I suspect it’s NOT in our Human Genetic Code to let Anyone go which You’d connected Deeply with.

Even worse than that – Accepting Life as it comes while we’re getting Over that person,

Living as You do or Have to,

Never such an Easy feat to pull off.


The Silver Lining here,

If you’re Willing and Open,

There will Always be a Chance at another Relationship,

ONE which is Yours to have and One which could Chance your life forever…

Just be Mindful of the Chance which could Present itself.



The Girl in the Pic isn’t one of the Two I wrote about, it Just Looked Nice.

Beyond the SMILE,


I cannot say with Any kind of Certainty that this is even Close to what the Truth of Other People’s lives are or could be.


While I walk up and down during the Days or do something when and where I need to do this – I see people around me. Yes I know as well, Looking at them you Cannot ascertain for sure if they’re Happy or just what may or may NOT be going on in their lives.


I know for a certain FACT that you Cannot judge a Person by the Moments you see them AND what you Perceive of their Actions.


THUS, it’s sometimes Very Interesting for me to look around me, looking at almost Everyone walking past me. Knowing that they’d Possibly see in Me what I see in them at the same time.


Yet the times I see Unhappiness, Sadness or Despair in their Faces – I wonder just how Accurate I really am; Understanding that I Cannot forever always be even Close to the Possible truth, as to what these People may Feel or Think…


We Cannot always as well walk around with a Smile on our Faces, BUT it’s not this which I see. If that is, I’m even Seeing what is the possible Truth.


This Image had not Left my Mind in all of this time, knowing that for a Certain Fact that there are a Mired of People we See or Interact with, who aren’t Happy in the Least bit in their Lives. Something which very Few of us could do a thing about.


This doesn’t mean We’ll NOT want to help anyone we know OR that Person you see, looking as Glum as they do. You may Not be able to Spark that Happiness in their Lives or their Souls.


Like an Infectious Disease, when you see someone – thinking of a Baby who sees you Smiling at them; this could very Easily be the First reaction they learn from you. Smiling back at you or whoever it might be there with the Infant.


As long as we Live we Learn how and what to do from those around us. Not saying this is Only the bad and worse things there are out there.

But this stands fast, as we Do what Others Do and not really what they SAY to us, in doing…


There are Times I grant you that, when we need to be Alone in our own Thoughts and you Cannot just sit around, hoping that the Issue or Thought would Resolve itself – in this Times and Days when we’re out and about; Those times could be what I’ve seen in the People as well.


Yet, what I saw, was an Older woman at the specific Shopping Complex and while she walked Alone – with her Possible Age unknown, I did see that she was very Grey and suspected that she could be a Widower (no proof for this thought).


And while I passed her by, I saw the seriousness in her expression. Not saying she was Unhappy, but she wasn’t in a good place either.

Right after her, not ten Steps behind her – there was a young boy. Possibly Primary School and while I approached him, I could see his Expression as well.


From my Perspective, he didn’t look Happy in the least bit. And with the Speed which Children grow-up these days and the Number of Predators out there, Horrible situation they could be involved with – No One can ever tell me any Teenage Child couldn’t have seen Terrible bits by now in their lives…


There is absolutely Nothing wrong, not always Walking around with a Smile on your face. It’s just once again Something I see around me, looking at People as I do, realizing just how few times I do see Happier people themselves.


My belief in most Instances, for Myself, is this – I cannot say that I’m always Cheerful which for All of us would be Really difficult. And so, I believe that Forcing ourselves in being that which You’re not feeling at the time; takes a Greater Deal of Energy from you to maintain.


In this Regard, I’ve become a little more Straight Forward over the Years. Not only this, I hate it to Waste my time and thus, Anyone would know Exactly where they Stand with me. In doing so – I don’t waste their time either.


When they then Do see me, out of my Skin, I’ll have good Reason for being such a State of Euphoria. Another thing which helps me, when People see me, as Neutral as Possible, Acting Normally around them – they’d far more Revert back to their Current Internal Emotional State.


YES, Yes I know this sounds Funny. SO, I’m almost Hiding in Plain Sight, seeing and looking through the Looking Glass which is so Eccentric to me, Observing those around me and in this way; Learning more and more about Human behavior.


The ONLY thing here I really do have an ISSUE with, even though we Might NOT always want to Smile or jump out of Our Skins – I do believe that when You, Me, We Affect others Unjustly; that’s when our Personal Feelings become something to DREAD, making other People around us Unhappy as well…


Being Honest is good, Being Rude isn’t even Close to that!

Being Upset or Unhappy is your right,

But Willfully Affecting others because You’re not in a Good place,

That should Ring some Bells, for you to Look at yourself and Figure out what is going on,

Do NOT pull Other’s down because they’re not there…


It is SO easy at Pulling others Down with you,

Self-pity and wallowing in your Issue is Far Less Strain –


Seeing, when You’re not Positive or at least Content – Reaching there, Could be Much Harder Work in Reaching AND Maintaining this Personal Level of being…



The weekend over Father’s DAY – this Year, I had Lunch at my Sister’s place,

Between the Sisters, she’s the Youngest – yet she’s older than I am…

Between the Six siblings, we were Three there on the day.


It was a nice Lunch out and quit Relaxing, having a good time while I was there,

The food itself was Really nice and I enjoyed the company as well.


The Oldest Sister’s Kids arrived there after Lunch and we continued Chatting for some time.

Within this time I heard my Oldest Sister saying that she had to Change the Radio Station’s Channel in the Mornings when she Drove to work.

Talking about the change the Station or rather the Presenters initiated themselves, seeing they’d been working in their Spots on the Radio Station, for such a long time.


I was pretty Amazed that my Oldest Sister didn’t like the New Presenter,

The Very Host of the Morning Show which had Changed…


When I got home the Thought still stayed with me and I came to Realize that this has happened to almost ALL of us at some point,

Not that Someone you know didn’t see Eye to Eye,

But their Personal Preference differed from yours…


I do not care in the least bit what the Next person Likes or for that matter Dislike,

But the Issue comes when We, They or Any Others,

Like to change your Point of View or what You’d like to suit Other people’s Idea of what they believe You should like…


This is in fact what makes Life of Interesting,

Not ALL people are the Same and if that was the Case,

Life would have been REALLY Boring at the end of the day!


Over time You’re Enriched by your Experiences and if you Give that options a Chance to Test it,

OR if you Immediately see that you Dislike what the Option is,

That’s well Within Your Right to Exercise Your Personal Preference on whichever Topic You’re dealing with or facing.


I also must Admit that I don’t think that the New Presenter is that Terrible,

BUT – as well, I’ve listened to this Woman on the Radio for a while,

Knowing her Eccentricities by now as well.


I can compare this to Us watching a Brand New Movie or a TV Series,

If you’re NOT use to it and it Doesn’t Resonate with you,

It’s going to be Really hard for Us to jump into it.


LIFE it all about Trying New things,

AND when you’ve given it Your time,

No matter How much you do – at the End of the Day we ALL

Know what your Personal Preference would be…


As Long As everyone else accepts what you Like or Not,

Then things should be Pretty Okay…


Cadbury          vs.        Beacon Chocolate


Coke                vs.        Pepsi


Google            vs.        Bing


Apple              vs.        Microsoft


Apple              vs.        Samsung


Audi                vs.        VW


iZombie           vs.        The Walking Dead


There are so many, Yet I’m not going to mention all of them,

The ONLY fact we need to Understand here,

Like you’ve got Your Own Preferences,

Those around you do as well.


The Best we can do, Respect the Choices of those which are Different from Ours,

As they would in turn,

Respect Your Choices when they Differ from THEM…


All the Best with your Different Choices!

Sacrifice – WHY indeed?


Who has Never been in the Position,

Wanting your Plans to work out and THEN only seeing that Possibility of something falling into place and Things able to work out…

THE Only thing You need be doing – You’ve got to Sacrifice something.

Ask Yourself this Question, How many People do you know who would Gladly do this,

Taking that Chance for their Plans to come to Fruition?


I’ve read a few things and on this one Website by a Screenplay Writer / Novelist, I found one of her posts –

Jeanne Veillette BOWERMAN,

Talking about the Idea of our – Fear of Success…


I’d read her post and the one before this one about our

Fear Of Success – which was,

10 Tips to Prepare for Opportunities When They Knock…


HENSE, you may ask how do these Two ideas come back to Sacrifice and Thus,

The Idea is this,

Mentioned in her Post on Fear of Success,

Is the idea that If you need to Change, reaching that Success,

You’ll have to Change…


The Question begs to be Asked as well,

Sacrifice your current Comfortable situation,

Sacrifice something in your Nice Life,

Change what You’re currently Use to –

Reaching what, Gaining what, Ending up Where exactly?


Most people may NOT be Scared of Success,

But we’re ALL Scared of Failure


That’s also something Very Debilitating holding us back from Reaching for that Brilliant Change or the Opportunity of a Lifetime!


You may not have the Experience,




OR the Expertise – there could be So much more…


If you have the Guts to Follow the Passion which Burns in Your Heart,

That Passion will Shine through no matter what you do.

The People in the Know, Looking for Whomever it may be at the Moment You’re there to do Your thing – They may see what You cannot Imagine them to pick up on!


There’s Another Issue at hand here,

Not only that Fear of the Unknown and Making a Complete Ass of yourself,


Worse than that –

If You’ve become so Happy with Your Mundane situation

SO Happy that Neither You nor anyone else for that matter,

REQUIRE something MORE from You,

Then it’s a good place to stay – in that Comfort Zone and Enjoy what You’re Use too!


Interestingly Enough,

I’d spoken to my Oldest Sister,

Not sure if the Passion I’d felt while I’d Written various of my Fictional Works,

Would that Feeling and Idea and Heartfelt for the Character and Story shine through?


She told me that when she get SO caught up in any Story,

When it Interests her so Much,

When she cannot Put down whatever she’s Reading –

then at that Point, the Writer did their JOB (this is mentioning my situation).


When You reach this Plato I suspect,

You’d be lucky to Receive that Contract or Possible that Job or even that Raise You were Aiming at.


The OTHER thing here mentioned,

That Lovely thing,

Your Comfort Zone!


I’m Waiting to find out if I’m one of the Lucky 40

Writers, Producers, Directors or Such landing a Chance

at getting the Chance to do Something Brilliant!


Not ONLY this,

But I had to Change my general Idea and

JUMP out, doing something totally Different!


I had to come up with an; As Original Idea As Possible,

When that was Done,

I had to Write the Synopsis well enough to draw Attention

AND, from there had to Write a Comedy Piece,

Not in English as I’d Written in English Exclusively for a LONG-long time!


ONLY when you try will you Know if things can work out,

THUS – The Sacrifice in Reaching where I want to be,

That’s an Ongoing Plan which has Various Aspects in it,

AND I’ll be Damned if I don’t even Try!


AND Yes,

There’s no way in this World that it doesn’t Scare the Life out of me,

Seeing this Leap of Faith may be Much BIGGER than I’d expect it to be,


Not doing it,

Not taking the Chance,

Not throwing my Name in there…

What would I Say at the end of the Day,

When I allow this Possible Opportunity to Slip through my Fingers…?


What would be Worse,

In another Year I’d wonder why I didn’t do it?

How many Years would have to go by, before You seriously ask yourself,

What was the Worse that could happen?


Sacrifice Your Calm,



Comfort Zone for the

ADVENTURE of a Lifetime?


They don’t say,

A Leap of Faith for nothing –

Only After You Leap would you WORK your Rear off to Make it Work for You!

Too ACTIVE for Our Own GOOD!


This last week I’ve been running at Work so hard,

My Mind had not really Settled when I got home and

There’s just so much time which Passes before We do it all over again!


I’ve been so Busy with what I had to do,

I’ve not even THOUGHT about something to put up on this Post…

That’s saying FAR too much actually!


Then I once more Heard this song and I’d understand just how Important this is,

Even though we may be Really Busy during the day or the week;

It is an ABSOLUTE need for us to Try and switch off after you Finished work!


I Believe that this isn’t as Easy as I may write here


That we do try to reach that Point of Relaxation,

Seeing there’s Far Too much happening around us!


You’ve got a Life at Home beyond Your work and

When you’ve got a Partner, Wife, Husband AND Kids,

All of them need some of Your Time and Attention…


We cannot Make the Mistake in Deprive them from that,


One thing I’ve come to Realize the Past week,

IF you can Create Yourself a Rhythm when You arrive home


You do explain this to those around you,

THIS can help you Relax and You can help them Out Far more Effectively than what You’d have done if you didn’t Relax.


A Warm Bath


Having that nice Glass of Wine


I’d love my Cup of Coffee


Then I do Truly Enjoy Listening to that Song

Music in general which put you in the Phase to Relax…


My Latest Singer / Songwriter I’ve found


Picked up from the TV Series – Suits,

Sharon Van Etten…

AND the Song I cannot get Enough of,

LISTENED to it while I was Getting this Post done…

“People Ain’t No Good”

The Suits TV Series Song,

“Pay My Debts”


The FACT of the Matter is,

I watch a Great Deal of TV Series,

THOSE which I really Enjoy I can Start from Season ONE

If I do have them and ENJOY watching them again.


IF not then I do Watch many a Movie,

As well as NEED the Sounds of Soul in my Ears when I do write…

WHY I’m telling you this,

YOU Cannot Relax and Find Yourself before the Next workday,

If You don’t know HOW to truly Relax Yourself and KNOW

What would work for you…


I’ve Mentioned this before,

But with the Week being SO Hectic for me,

Relaxation is Far more Important that Any of Us can easily believe.


Whatever you Need to do,

When You’re in a Better Spot,

Then those around you Who would NEED that as well,

You can Cope better at Helping them out as well…


Take the time to Help Yourself and then,

Take the time in Helping Them as well.