The AWKWARDNESS of Self…

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I can almost Believe or Suspect that Everyone at some Point had Endured or

Experienced this Kind of Issue coming along your way,

That would be – Someone you Know making regular excuses in canceling your plans…

 

I was Listening to the Radio; if I can remember this one correctly,

They spoke about that People regularly cancel the plans they’d made.

Not only that, but these would be the Ones they said Yes to in the First place? ? ?

 

Most of these people at the End have something to do

OR by then their plans did Change,

Yet they didn’t tell you that they would be Busy or Possibly didn’t want to come along with your Arrangements made with you, to begin with.

 

I cannot say that I’ve met many People in this regard,

But I’ve seen a few people who I could easily do this.

 

What I have encountered,

When either You’re planning something or have an Idea about something,

There are ALWAYS those people OR Friends,

Wannabe Friends who would Jump at the Opportunity in getting IN on the Action,

But when Push comes to Shove,

They’re never there in the least bit!

 

Not ONLY is this One of the Single Most IRRITATING things I can Imagine myself,

BUT,

When you talk to them afterward – Making plans with them,

They would Act like there wasn’t a Thing wrong

OR

That they didn’t Drop the ball!

 

I must ADMIT,

At times when I was Really Tired and just needed to Unwind,

AS an Example;

When I was invited to the Family for a Lunch or Such,

I went, but didn’t really have the Energy for that,

BUT

As Life would teach you –

YOU Most of the Times NEED to have that Camaraderie with OTHERS,

Helping you to Blow-off some Steam!

 

Friends

Or

Family – it doesn’t really matter which one of the Two you take,

If you know that Friend who ALWAYS forfeit on their plans with you,

You might not want to Leave them Be…

They’ll Always fall into that Rhythm of keeping out of the Loop if You don’t keep at them,

Keeping them in the Circle!

 

Some People weren’t Born Socially Savvy,

Other’s have to Learn to do this,

SOME have to battle through this Issue…

ONE thing, We are People at some point who have to Experience that Connection,

Even if They don’t believe they need it!

 

As I said,

Friends

OR

Family –

One of the things I’ve learned over the Years as well;

Seeing this Exact Premise in a Film or Two,

Having Seen and Experienced this in parts of my Own life…

People who aren’t that Socially Programmed sometimes find it hard to Reach out in this Regard.

They become So emerged in their Own Lives, Living inside their Own Heads that they don’t even Miss what Life throws their way and Lives obliviously past it…

Such a pity!

 

When I was Retrenched,

Out of Work for SIX Months,

I found just how Deep I got Emerged into my Craft,

Having finished more work than I’d suspect;

YET through all of this,

I was also quite Cut off from those around me.

 

So,

Take it from me,

Calling a Friend,

Asking a Brother or Sister to come for a Visit,

That might Mean for more to them than THEY even can Imagine.

 

The saying goes;

Get out of your Head…

Head out of the Clouds…

 

That’s very easy to say,

It’s NOT one of the Easiest things for Most people to do,

Having Good company when there’s NO Pressure,

That would help Your

Friend,

Buddy,

Family Member.

 

Just keep in mind,

There’s be BIG difference between Socially Awkward People

AND someone just being Rude to you,
Blowing you Off because they cannot be Truthful

And Other’s a bit Unsure of themselves…

 

I do Hope that we can ALL see and recognize those who just waste your time

AND those who just need a Little Encouragement…

 

Be kind when you can be.

Loneliness…

 Loneliness

            Not so long ago I spoke to a woman somewhat older than I am.

The interesting idea that I got from that conversation, that she was Lonely AND the thought that this Feeling which she experienced;

Can lead many a Person to doing something STUPID!

            Hence, I know that more than ONE person I’ve known had made a few Stupid choices and I’ve been in a Kind-Of Relationship;

Not as Intense as I’ve known others around me – But the Hind-sight I know that it wouldn’t have been really Positive for me.

            The LACK of Relationship, didn’t give me ANY indication of just how Good or Bad it could have been.

THUS, severing the Connection and moving wasn’t so easy…

 

            So, I’ve got First-Hand experience of something that Doesn’t LOOK to be so good.

Yet, as we weren’t Created/Born/Made or whichever you feel Comfortable with;

To be ALONE.

            That specific Desperation at Feeling WHOLE;

Is Probably the single most Powerful Drive that we’d feel at some point in our lives.

FINDING that other person, Whoever they may be;

WHO would fit with you.

 

            I wouldn’t say that they should Complete you,

They should be the Single Person would Cannot live without!

            AND Yet, there are those who would take this position and USE it and You to their own Advantage when you Feel & Look so Vulnerable…

            AND Still, we all Crave someone who would WANT to spend their Time with you.

We’ve done how many things,

            Finding, Reaching and Probably HOLDING-ON to that person.

 

            The IRNOY here is this,

If you’re not Happy with Yourself to begin with.

Understanding that there’s a Definite Chance of NOT having someone;

Will you be willing to Live yourself in a Possible Loneliness?

AS there’s NO Guarantee that You’d even FIND that Person,

There COULD be someone who would be WILLING to do all THEY could in being that ONE person for you.

IF you Search so Hard, You could MISS that Person willing to do Whatever.

 

            THEN as well,

Even when WE do find Someone Worth the Risk,

Someone willing to Put in the Effort,

LIKE I said, the Guarantee –

They may not Forever Stay with you and in Today’s Day in Age;

Could Easily go their Own way!

 

            You COULD find that even if you’re with Someone,

IF they’re the WRONG kind of Person to you,

Still, You’d sit with Loneliness being a Constant in your life.

 

            We CANNOT sit on the Side-lines and Comment on LIFE or this Game of Love,

When you’re UNWILLING to step off the Line and put your Heart where Your need is.

There’s no way of KNOWING if you’d get Hurt,

But I promise you;

Staying out of the GAME,

NOT looking or Trying to look for that ONE –

You’d feel a Constant Loneliness… Every Single Day!

 

            Take the Leap of Faith,

Take that Chance,

Look at the Possibility,

Accept we’ve got almost NO Control of Life &

THEN take that Plunge in LIVING!

 

All the Best 2 You!