I must say that we’re ALL dealing with some kind of Disappointment in our lives,
YET – the ones with the Greatest of Pinches are the ones which are Really Personal,
Not that they Don’t Hit you in a Personal way,
What I mean here – the People or the Investment we Place in the Possible outcome
Hit us Very Personal as the Time you may have Invested in this.
I KNOW how I’d dealt with my own and Thought I’d research once more what the Powers that be mentioned in their Blogs / Websites and Journals.
A few of these Ideas, YES –
Then again there are a Few Ideas I really don’t think will actually help you!
There’s my First and Most Important one of them all,
We’ll get to the rest in short due time…
Every one of us Deal with their Own Disappointments in their own way;
BUT what I found, helping me along in the Hardest one I’ve Felt in a Very-Very long time, is:
No matter what you Do or Plan – always understand it may Not work out the way you want; thus, you plan Ahead and Always have a Plan – B, C, D, E, however many you need!
Yes, I do know this is Much Easier said than done,
But if you don’t at least Acknowledge that Life will just Go-On no matter what You do,
And your Plans of Whichever it is, doesn’t work out;
While you did Plan ahead for something else to do – then you can at least Move on from here…
I can Guarantee you when this Disappointment hit you,
I’ll HURT or Sting you, Knocking you Off your normal Game!
There’s Absolutely NO way in getting away from that one – ONLY if you’re not Human and if you Don’t feel any kind of Emotions!
Beyond that – You’ll need to at least Allow yourself to Feel this Emotion and Accept how you feel about the Disappointment.
Feeling it and Acknowledging it does Exist is the Actual fact,
Letting it be and TRY to understand why the Conclusion you received OR news from wherever it came, did turn out as it did – WITHOUT reacting to it!
As the saying goes,
Put a Guard before my Mouth so I don’t Spew Hell on others…
OR something like that – it might be that, but the Idea here runs in conjunction with giving yourself Time to experience the Disappointment.
IF you react toward the Person OR act out against Anyone in Your immediate Vicinity,
When you feel Wronged – You’ll be the one Empowering this Cycle of Emotional Pain and the
Roller-coaster of Disappointment which OTHERS might not have had anything to do with.
Calm yourself down before you React.
They say that Wallowing in your Disappointment for TOO long isn’t good,
Which I Second – but then, If you are willing to accept that things Might not always work out,
Then moving on to the Next option is easier in Planning ahead.
IF not, then Imagine yourself the Real and Possible Human reason if Someone had Disappointed you, WHY this could or may have Happened.
NOT every Door you Open will be Helpful to you,
Coming back to the Planning Ahead.
Resting and Relaxing some, will open your Mind again,
Helping you to Strategize in getting you back on track again.
YES, I also KNOW that when Life, in General, Hit us with something not working out,
That’s not as Much pain and Disappointing as it is, when Someone you Know or a Person shoots you down.
BUT, if you Only Focus on this Negative event, Not seeing that you CAN do something about your Situation – then you’ll NEVER see the next step in doing what you need to.
These days our Lives and Life, in general, is TOO Hectic and thus,
You don’t have the Time always to get to Your Support Network,
BUT – if you need to chat with a Friend or Family, Make time for them and Allow them to Help clear your Mind, while you’re getting ready to Jump on the Horse again.
One Positive you can take from the Last Disappointment is this;
You now KNOW that the Last Plan, Person or Idea wouldn’t work out for you and SO,
You don’t have to waste Your time by doing it all over again!
Yes, I do know, the Amount of time you May have spent on this May have been Excessive,
BUT – it’s not your Entire Life and the Time to come either.
You do have an Option for Tomorrow and You can Choose to Change the possibilities,
Making something Better for yourself and those around you.
THEN as well, Remember that Everyone around you also has their Own Disappointments and Eventually they’ll possibly need YOU to support them,
So, if Everything, Possibly not as Intense hits you – and you CANNOT deal with Minor issues,
How would you Help those People Supporting You; when all you see if Your Own issues all of the time.
As I’m a writer,
I read that it’s a Good Idea in Free Writing your Thoughts and Emotions on a Piece of Paper – Do not stop until you feel there’s Nothing more you’d like to Say when dealing with this.
This would Help you in another way as well,
When you React to Someone who Might not have Anything to do with what you Received,
It can hurt them AND if there was A Person at the End of the Line;
Can you Say for Certain WHY this could have Happened?
ONLY after you walked a Mile in their Shoes can you Imagine,
Thus, getting your Thoughts and Feelings down on Paper,
May help you Avoid making a Bigger and or Worse mess of things.
Not ONLY this,
While I’m writing my Books at times,
Even my Ideas I share here –
I find a New Interesting Direction when I’m busy,
Veering OFF my Original Story,
Because this time Writing something down,
Gives us the Chance at Figuring out what we Might not have Known beforehand.
It’s Terrible when we have to Deal with these things that STING so much,
But what Doesn’t kill us,
Makes you Stronger, Wiser gives Insight –
But ONLY if you’re Willing to Hear and See what Might be…
In all and all, All the Best to You all…